Hey love,
If you’ve been here for a while, you might notice this newsletter looks a little different.
That’s because it is. I’ve moved everything over to Kajabi to streamline things on the back end—and truthfully, a lot of what I offer is shifting right now. New platforms, new formats, new offers on the horizon. It's exciting… and to be honest, a little overwhelming.
I’ve caught myself lately in go-go-go mode again. That old familiar urge to make it perfect, make it seamless, make it all look good.
It’s wild how easily that old perfectionism sneaks back in, even after all the work. But here’s the thing I keep learning over and over:
The key isn’t to be perfect.
The key is to notice when we’re striving… and choose again.
So instead of obsessing over formatting... here I am, choosing presence over performance. I’m showing up honestly—with heart and truth—just like I always have.
In the past, I used to take these newsletter messages and repurpose them as blog posts. But now? The blog is essentially right here. Delivered to your inbox, in its most honest form.
Let’s dive in.
The Hidden Cost of High-Functioning
High-functioning isn’t the flex we think it is. It’s praised in our culture, even rewarded—but it quietly robs us of so much. It costs us our health: the sleepless nights, the tight chest, the chronic exhaustion we normalize. The anxiety that hums beneath the surface like white noise we’ve stopped noticing. The body that’s been in fight-or-flight for so long, we’ve forgotten what peace feels like.
It costs us our relationships, too. Because when you’re always “fine,” always holding it together, no one knows how to meet you in your truth. You become the strong one, the go-to, the one who never asks for help. And over time, that strength turns to resentment. To loneliness. To a version of yourself you hardly recognize.
But maybe the deepest cost? It’s the loss of self. The woman inside who never had time to ask: What do I need? What do I want? Who am I outside of what I do for everyone else? Somewhere along the way, in the striving and surviving, we forget her. And that’s what hurts the most.
Busy Isn't Always What It Seems
I used to say, “I just have a lot on my plate,” but looking back, I can see that I wore busy like armor. Because the moment I slowed down, even a little, everything I had buried started to surface. The grief. The anxiety. The shame. All the emotions I had neatly tucked away behind productivity and perfectionism came rushing in the second I paused.
So I didn’t pause. I stayed busy. Because movement felt safer than stillness. Doing gave me the illusion of control. And control made me feel like I was okay—even when I wasn’t.
We tell ourselves it’s ambition. But sometimes it’s fear. Fear of the feelings we’ve avoided. Fear of the truth that might rise in the quiet. Fear that if we stop holding it all together, it will all fall apart—including us.
But here’s what I know now: your nervous system isn’t broken. It’s brilliant. It’s been doing its job—protecting you, adapting for you, helping you survive. But the version of you reading this? She’s ready for more than survival. And healing starts when we stop running and start listening. Not by fixing, not by striving—but by learning to be with ourselves in the quiet moments we used to run from.
Awareness Is Where the Shift Begins
The thing about healing is, it doesn’t ask us to overhaul our lives overnight. It invites us to notice. To get curious instead of critical. Because every pattern we carry had a reason. And awareness is what helps us remember that.
These days, when I catch myself slipping back into the go-go-go mode, I pause and ask:
Where is the part of me that feels like she can’t stop?
What is she avoiding?
What does she need from me right now?
Sometimes she’s afraid of falling behind.
Sometimes she’s trying to earn her worth.
Sometimes she’s avoiding the wave of emotion that’s been building for weeks.
But every time I meet her with clarity and compassion, something softens.
Because when we get honest about why we’re doing what we’re doing—and we stop shaming ourselves for it—that part of us no longer needs to scream for our attention. She no longer needs to hustle to stay safe.
She starts to trust that she is safe.
Not because the world is perfect.
But because I’ve become the safety she was always looking for.
Ready for additional support?
You’re invited to my next virtual Energy Healing Session
🗓️ Saturday, July 5 at 11 AM PST
✨ Theme: Beyond the Walls – Releasing the Armor of Over-Functioning
This is a sacred space to exhale.
To soften your system.
To release what you’ve been carrying—without needing to explain or over-perform.
If your nervous system is craving stillness, but your mind is stuck in go-mode… this is for you.
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A love note from me...
Just because you can keep pushing doesn’t mean you should.
Just because you’re high-functioning doesn’t mean you’re okay.
And just because you’ve always been the strong one doesn’t mean you can’t rest now.
It’s safe to slow down.
It’s safe to stop performing.
It’s safe to be real.
And it’s safe to start again.
Love and Light Always,
Amie đź’›
